Last week, we talk about making friends as an adult by first going through our contacts list and reconnecting with those people first. This week, we're going to learn the Friends Recipe in order to reconnect or make new friends. Many will still argue why they even need to expand their circle of friends and network. I'll give you hint, we need friends to help us through the ebb and flow of life. I'll explain more a little later.
Making Friends as an Adult
You don't have to reinvent the wheel when it comes to making friends. It's as simple as looking through your contacts list. If you did last week's self-inventory of what kind of friend you are, you can probably start to look at a pattern on the kind of friend you've been, and maybe found out you could step up your game or perhaps you've been giving too much of your self. All of these discoveries help you become self-aware, emotional intelligent, and it could be the beginning or a great reminder to start setting your limits and create better boundaries. Armed with this knowledge you can look at your contact list objectively and start evaluating whether you keep your friends because they are actually friends (based on last weeks responses) or if you keep them around for another reason.
What kind of friend am I anyway?
Usually when I talk to someone about making new friends, they gasp after I walk them through the steps they say, "I can't do that. It's easy for you but I'm not that outgoing". I'll agree with you that I'm outgoing but I wasn't always this outgoing, friendly or composed when speaking to strangers. I also had to do many and many self assessments so I could finally say, "This is the kind of friend I am and the kinds of friends I'm looking for and to be honest, self-assessment is a life long thing!
This is why our first stop in this month's series, "Making friends and connections", is self-assessment.
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To wrap up our New Year, New Habits? series I chatted with Elena Carlotta (Charlie) Manavis, Business Developer, Coach & Entrepreneur on how she gained an extra 40 minutes a day and two additional holidays last year!
Behavior Analyst and Personal Life Coach. Changing behavior one step at a time. Keeping things simple because it's easier that way.