Getting organized is a change in habit or behavior which means that it has a trigger and a consequence. I’ve worked with many women that have this negative emotional tie or association to getting organized and it is so difficult for them to become the person they really want to be. This negative emotional tie is a trigger that basically makes you inactive in getting organized. The moment people hear “to lists” or “schedule” or “agenda” or maybe even “follow this schedule” it starts an emotional uneasiness, sometimes unbeknownst to them, and then nothing happens. Maybe they’ll try but it won’t stick.
Many times they relate it to something that only their parents do and they can’t possibly be like their parents or it’s something that their parents told them that they were not capable of ever being! Maybe subscribing to a more organized life means fitting into this mold that they have tried to avoid all of their lives. Or it’s just something that they cannot wrap their minds around because they haven’t practiced it enough or they don’t think in straight lines.
Today, think about getting organized and observe any emotions that pop up when thinking about it. Were they negative? Did an image pop into your mind? What is it about getting organized that drains you?
Great, you’ve identified your trigger! Now you’ll know when that little F*cker shows up and stop it in it’s tracks.
Most of the time we associate getting organized to something painful or bad. We’ve associated getting sh*t done to some stuffy person working in an office or our overworked parents. Or maybe the last time you worked on a schedule you didn’t have time for your hobbies. At this very moment, all of these are no longer valid excuses. They WERE those things before and they don’t have to be that for you! Now you have to visualize and tie a new happy feeling to getting organized. Maybe getting to spend more time with loved ones, having more money to do fun stuff, or maybe showing the world how different YOUR life is and it’s not some stuffy office setting. It’s time to break the habit loop by associating it a new image. So now that you’ve identified the trigger, this old default behavior will come back to haunt you but now you’ll be prepared to stop it in it’s tracks by introducing your new and improved image and feeling to getting organized.
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Behavior Analyst and Personal Life Coach. Changing behavior one step at a time. Keeping things simple because it's easier that way.