When my clients come to me they are usually in a frantic state. They’re overwhelmed by their current life situation which spans from very personal issues like break-ups or work related stressors like dealing with a disorganized manager or out of reach deadlines. Whatever the worry, my clients most usually forget to count their blessings. What I mean is that they are not living in the moment, THIS MOMENT. They are worried about the future and the past therefore not even noticing that right now is what they have. They are not appreciating the space they are in. Even in the most difficult of times there are always silver linings. You just have to consistently practice finding them. If they are not here right now, they are not living. They are caught in a web of lies that can only be released by allowing the now to happen. The now will only happen if you are appreciating the now. Everyone needs a little jump start so I remind them of the things to be grateful for. I do an exercise with them that I learned a long time ago and practice it when I need a reality check. I used to do it daily and it really works. It begins to shift your mind so you can be present now and appreciate what you have and be in a gratitude mindset which shifts everything, our minds, bodies, our nerves! This is how it´s done. You can also listen to me explain how it´s done at the bottom.
Gratitude Circles (or Lists)
Inner circle: Appreciate your body and what it can do.
Eyes (because I can see, see color, see my family…)
Teeth (so that I can eat, chew, smile…)
Hair (I have hair, it’s healthy, it’s nice…)
Legs ( to walk, to run, to play with my kids…)
Hands (do my work, hold hands, play, cook, feel…)
2nd Circle: Appreciate People and Nature
Mom and Dad
Sisters and brothers
Aunts, uncles, cousins,
4th Circle: Appreciation for Material Things
Job that earns me a paycheck to buy nice things
House with running water and heat
Car that gets me to my job and see my kids play baseball
and my personal favorite, the internet that helps me do my job and keeps me in touch with family and friends.
At the end of this exercise your perspective should shift, reminding you that you have a ton of things to be grateful for but also reminds you that what ever you´re going through isn´t that bad. Even if it is that bad, I´m sure there are things about your life right now that are still pretty fantastic and you can be grateful for. If you do this for a month you´ll see it becomes easier and you change perspective much quicker. Then you can begin to use it throughout your day. I used to do this while drinking my tea in the morning before I start my makeup routine. Now, I use it randomly when I´m commuting or walking to my next meeting. It´s amazing how quick you can shift your perspective and start appreciating your life right now.
Do it this week and let me know how it went.
Do directly to the "how to do gratitude circles" it starts at minute 40
Behavior Analyst and Personal Life Coach. Changing behavior one step at a time. Keeping things simple because it's easier that way.