I often get asked about becoming a positive thinker from positive thinkers. Usually, when I meet a negative thinker more often than not they don't see the problem or it's a problem that others have towards them. The usual excuse is, "I'm realistic" or "I feel fine about myself but I just don't have enough friends". I'm all for being realistic but I'm also for being positive and the abundance of good that has come from being unapologetically positive about everything.
So when I stumbled upon this great article from The New York Times by Jane E. Brody, I was thrilled to see the list of recommendations that I have and continue to practice until this day to remain a happy and optimistic person. Here's the list:
Do good things for other people. In addition to making others happier, this enhances your own positive feelings. It can be something as simple as helping someone carry heavy packages or providing directions for a stranger.
Appreciate the world around you. It could be a bird, a tree, a beautiful sunrise or sunset or even an article of clothing someone is wearing. I met a man recently who was reveling in the architectural details of the 19th-century houses in my neighborhood.
Develop and bolster relationships. Building strong social connections with friends or family members enhances feelings of self-worth and, long-term studies have shown, is associated with better health and a longer life.
Establish goals that can be accomplished. Perhaps you want to improve your tennis or read more books. But be realistic; a goal that is impractical or too challenging can create unnecessary stress.
Learn something new. It can be a sport, a language, an instrument or a game that instills a sense of achievement, self-confidence and resilience. But here, too, be realistic about how long this may take and be sure you have the time needed.
Choose to accept yourself, flaws and all. Rather than imperfections and failures, focus on your positive attributes and achievements. The loveliest people I know have none of the external features of loveliness but shine with the internal beauty of caring, compassion and consideration of others.
691COMMENTSPractice resilience. Rather than let loss, stress, failure or trauma overwhelm you, use them as learning experiences and steppingstones to a better future. Remember the expression: When life hands you a lemon, make lemonade.
Practice mindfulness. Ruminating on past problems or future difficulties drains mental resources and steals attention from current pleasures. Let go of things you can’t control and focus on the here-and-now. Consider taking a course in insight meditation.
I hope you get started today with your daily practice and if you're really struggling to find your self- confidence or regain your self-esteem, book your Discovery Call and see if my services would help you. My passion is helping women find their selves again and start walking tall!
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Behavior Analyst and Personal Life Coach. Changing behavior one step at a time. Keeping things simple because it's easier that way.