Recently, I did something really stupid and I can’t stop thinking about it. I can’t stop thinking about it because it was something so out of my character it left my inner core shocked for weeks. I questioned myself often, “Why did I do that? Did I really think that this was normal? Why did I act in such a fearful and non-abundant way? What was I thinking? Wait, was I even thinking? No, I wasn’t!”
No matter how many times I went through that questioning scenario, I came up with the same thing, “I wasn’t thinking”. Then I questioned myself further to make sure I haven’t fallen off course completely, “Do I really believe in this fearful mindset? Maybe, I still do and it’s still embedded so deeply it crops up when I’m not on my A-game. Mental note: stay consistently on my A game. But do I also believe in such a way that I feel there’s a lack of (feeling of non-abundance)?” “No,I don’t believe this but once again, off my A-game.”
That fearful person that feels that they are not enough is still very much embedded because those were the go-to feelings in my past life, so I can’t help but to feel this way but more importantly, why wasn’t I on my A-game and why were these fearful go-to feelings cropping up? A simple answer here: I was exhausted. I was mentally, physically, and emotionally drained! I couldn’t believe it! I was so tired that I literally wasn’t thinking straight! How did I let this happen? Me, the life coach that prides herself on staying organized and keeping things in check?! This particular week, I had tossed out my own rule book and had prioritized “things” over “me time”. This proves several things, that I’m human and still make mistakes. That my core isn’t flawed but instead was truly tested and almost failed. Also, that fear will creep in at every opportunity that it gets. Lastly, the most important one of them all, is that “me time” is important and should be put above all else.
We usually "take it for the team" because we don’t want to disappoint or let others down. We push our limits because we want to see the very best in what we do. We over schedule out of fear, but when your body, mind and spirit are depleted there isn’t anything else to give and this will be show in mistakes, inaccuracies, and flawed judgement (1) . Learn from me and my little hiccup to listen to your body! If you’re having one of those weeks that you’ve decided to exhaust yourself then take a moment each day there after to meditate and bring yourself back or better yet, just do yourself and others the favor and don’t over schedule and therefore over exhaust yourself!! That being said, I now have built in “me time” and I ask myself every week, “Does this schedule make me happy?” If the answer is yes, this means that I’ve respected my time and so should you.
Tips on how to include "me time" and other fun nonnegotiable key items into your schedule:
1. Block out “me time” by labeling it as “very important meeting” so when you check your schedule, it says just that and you can repeat it to anyone, including yourself that asks to schedule a meeting during that blocked out time frame.
2. Everyday you should have: Study time, relax time, work time. Define what these are to you and include them in your schedule.
3. Schedule in social time - hanging out with friends, phone call with a friend, a course that provides a social outlet for you such as a cooking class.
4. Remember how it feels to be overwhelmed. How does your mind feel? Your body? Do you feel tense? Do you get body aches? Can’t sleep? Remember all these things and when these same feelings start cropping up then you’re hitting the “danger zone”. Stop what you’re doing and re-do your schedule to include the above mentioned tips.
Wishing a stress free week with lots of scheduled “me time”!
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